Questioning trans kids

The UK Government and UK research councils have contributed £10 million pounds to a series of research studies on service users of the newly established Children and Young People’s Gender Services.

These studies include the PATHWAYS study programme (Puberty suppression And Transitional Healthcare with Adaptive Youth Services) led by Kings College London in partnership with the NHS. This programme covers five different studies.

 1) ‘PATHWAYS HORIZON’ is a longitudinal observational cohort study of all children and young people (n~3600) attending CYPGS.

2) ‘HORIZON Intensive’, encompasses a sample of those from PATHWAYS HORIZON who are not approved to receive endocrine care who will be more intensively studied as a control group for PATHWAYS TRIAL;

3) PATHWAYS TRIAL, a study of those approved to receive puberty blockers (GnRHa) as part of a research study.

4) ‘PATHWAYS CONNECT’ a study of  cognition and brain development in CYP attending the services, including those who are and are not receiving GnRHa.

5) ‘PATHWAYS VOICES’ a longitudinal qualitative interview based study of CYP attending CYPGS. In this article we will focus only on the first study, PATHWAYS HORIZON.

Here I’m just focusing on the questions that will be asked under the first study, Pathways Horizon.

In this blog I want to do two things:

  • Highlight some big picture concerns with the questions asked in the PATHWAYS Horizon study, alongside some recommendations for families and young trans people engaged with the new NHS England and Wales Gender Clinics.
  • Outline in an accessible format all the questions that are being asked in that study, so that families and trans young people can be better informed on whether they choose to participate.

The PATHWAYS Horizon study hopes to gain the consent of 80% of young people and families to participate in it. I hope that number will be very much smaller. I do not believe it will add useful information to our academic understanding of trans young people, certainly not information that is worth the risks and harms inherent in the whole approach and service. I consider not participating in this study (or at least opting out of the more harmful tools) an act of harm reduction for trans children, young people and supportive families. When I was first given some of these exact same tools, many years ago, when I first attended a GIDS appointment as a naïve and unknowledgeable parent of a young trans child, I did not feel able to decline to participate in filling in questionnaires that made me feel really uncomfortable. I hope to empower others to make a different choice.

Big Picture Concerns

  • They are asking an excessive number of questions, which is itself abusive and unreasonable – over 314 questions are here listed.
  • A large number of these questions of more or less irrelevant or only tangentially relevant for trans kids – they are not clinically useful, necessary or meaningful
  • These questions will never demonstrate what healthcare benefits trans children.
  • The data collection shown here will be exhausting, time-consuming and expensive, a colossal waste of NHS and research resources whilst not delivering useful outcomes.
  • Many of the questions outlined below are deeply pathologising, invasive, trauma-inducing and inappropriate.
  • Several tools present trans children as a problem, potentially reaffirming parental biases, and potentially reinforcing trans children’s shame and self-hate.
  • I continue to recommend families to avoid the new service, as it holds very little potential of offering anything of value, and high potential to cause significant harm. For many families it may just end up being a significant waste of time.
  • If families choose to attend, hoping for the chance to be part of a puberty blocker trial, please think carefully before choosing to participate in this research. As an academic researcher specialising in this field, this planned research is not needed, will not lead to better care for trans youth, and in the wrong hands research of this nature can be distorted to further reinforce pathologisation, control and barriers to care. Participation in this research is not necessary to be eligible for the puberty blocker trial. Please know that you can decline participation. Please let your young person know they can decline participation.
  • If you do still choose to participate, please be aware of the potential for harm and trauma in several of the tools outlined below.
  • In particular I am concerned about the tools labelled the Child Behaviour Checklist (which is an awful tool to use for trans children, asking 118 questions on how much of a problem they are to the world), the Utrecht Gender Dysphoria Scale – Gender Spectrum (UGDS-GS) (which uses very outdated measures of gender dysphoria); Body Image Scale – Gender Spectrum (BIS-GS) (a horrific tool that asks children to assess how much they hate all their body parts); the ALSPAC Romantic Relations (which in spite of its name asks totally irrelevant and intrusive questions about the sex life of those aged 12-17). The SCOFF tool has a questionable name for a tool designed to screen for eating disorders.
  • I continue to be concerned about the questions that will be asked under the heading ‘medical history’, which by description is far wider a category with room to ask all kinds of irrelevant questions. I expect that component could include the typical gender clinic fascinations: many questions for parents on childbirth, parenting approaches, family deaths, family tensions, family gender roles and other irrelevant and trauma-uninformed lines of questioning. I expect there will be many questions for young people on defending and justifying their theoretical understanding of gender, and questioning them on proposed causes of gender confusion including social media, peer pressure, porn viewing, childhood trauma, parental homophobia or whatever is the latest transphobic focus in a search for anything other than transness to explain transness.
  • Throughout the years of the earlier GIDS clinic, there was a long and noble history of trans children, adolescents and supportive families putting the questionnaires that were offensive and harmful straight in the bin. Of asserting a right to not answer any question that feels off, that feels uncomfortable, that doesn’t seem relevant to the healthcare support being sought. Please continue this noble tradition in the new service. You should not answer any questions that make you or your young person uncomfortable. Bad questions always give bad data that will not benefit any trans young people. Research trauma is a serious concern. The NHS and associated researchers are not taking their ethical duty of care seriously, so we need service users to take this on. I’m writing this primarily to parents as I don’t think under 18s are likely to read this. But for any trans under 18s who do read this – please don’t feel pressured to answer questions that make you uncomfortable or seem strange or irrelevant. You do not have to answer and they cannot make you.
  • This is the non-intensive study – an additional ‘intensive study is also planned for those who will be in the puberty blocker trial and the control group for that trial). I repeat more than 314 questions for parents and more than 314 questions for children/young people is the non-intensive study.
  • These extensive, time and resource consuming, and largely irrelevant questions need to be understood in the context of a service that is trying to give the appearance of being busy, giving the appearance of doing something RIGOROUS, whilst failing to deliver any of the services that trans young people need and have a right to. It serves to keep service users distracted from the care that is not being offered. It provides baseline data on a host of largely irrelevant (or tangentially relevant) areas of mental health, generic well-being, neurodivergence etc, from which the service can seek to ‘further explore’ every one of those ‘issues’ or concerns, whilst denying or delaying affirmative healthcare. The type of intentional distraction and delay is a known component of modern conversive approaches.
  • Conversion therapy in the NHS never wears a badge saying ‘I will make you cis’. It comes much more subtly: Before we talk about the support that you need, FIRST we need to ask these hundreds of questions. Before we talk about puberty blockers or HRT, we first need to explore each of these areas of mental health or neurodivergence, or sexual attraction or family functioning or body image or sex life. We need to thoroughly explore what is going on holistically before we can do anything else. We need to be thorough. We need to avoid misdiagnosis. We need to rule out other causes. We need to Explore.
  • Not useful research: In spite of hundreds of questions, pages of spreadsheets and millions of pounds, this research will not answer questions that would be useful for a health service to know the answer to. Questions like: What are the things that make life harder for a trans child or adolescent? What are the things that improve things for trans children? The research isn’t answering these questions because we already know most of the answers. And our NHS and government and country does not like the answers to those questions. Cos they don’t care whether trans kids have a tough life. They don’t want to help trans kids at all. That is not the purpose of this service. It is a service to ‘study’ trans kids, to delay trans kids, and through delay to convert trans kids – pushing them to suppress their identity, to give up their fight, to think of themselves as a problem, as broken, pushing them to give up even thinking that they matter or have rights.

Number of Questions

ToolParent questionsChild/Young Person Questions
Kidscreen-52 (generic wellbeing)5252
CBCL (Problem behaviour)118118
Parental ‘About Yourself’ Questionnaire20
SNAP-IV tool (ADHD)180
Social Communication Questionnaire (SCQ) (autism)400
PATHWAYS Gender Identity Questionnaire02
Social Transition Questionnaire05
Adolescent Primary Care Traumatic Stress Screen (APCTSS) (trauma screen)55
Revised Child Anxiety and Depression Scale (RCADS) (anxiety and depression)2525
Utrecht Gender Dysphoria Scale – Gender Spectrum (UGDS-GS) (dated measures of gender dysphoria)018
Body Image Scale – Gender Spectrum (BIS-GS) (body image)033
Ask Suicide-Screening Questions (ASQ)44
SCOFF Questionnaire – Test for Detecting Eating Disorders55
Difficulties in Emotion Regulation Scale (DERS)  2918
Sexual Attraction01
ALSPAC Romantic Relations (sex life)014
Parental Attitudes of Gender Expansiveness Scale for Youth (PAGES)  1614
15 minutes questioning on ‘medical history’ that covers huge range of areas.  UnknownUnknown
Annual Health Update  UnknownUnknown
Total questionsOver 314 questionsOver 314 questions

Detailed Breakdown of the exact questions being asked

52 questions for parent & 52 questions for young person from the Kidscreen-52 tool (here the parent version)

  1. In general how would your child rate their health? (excellent; very good; good; fair; poor)

Thinking about last week (with answers: not at all; slightly; moderately; very; extremely or never; seldom; quite often; very often; always)

  • Has your child felt fit and well
  • Has your child been physically active (e.g. running, climbing, biking)?
  • Has your child been able to run well?
  • Has your child felt full of energy
  • Has your child felt that life was enjoyable
  • Has your child felt pleased that they are alive
  • Has your child felt satisfied with their life
  • Has your child been in a good mood
  • Has your child felt cheerful
  • Has your child had fun
  • Has your child felt that they do everything badly
  • Has your child felt sad
  • Has your child felt so bad that they didn’t want to do anything
  • Has your child felt that everything in their life goes wrong
  • Has your child felt fed up
  • Has your child felt lonely
  • Has your child felt under pressure
  • Has your child felt happy with the way they are
  • Has your child been happy with their clothes
  • Has your child been happy with the way they look
  • Has your child felt jealous other the way other children look
  • Has your child wanted to change something about their body
  • Has your child had enough time for themselves
  • Has your child been able to do the things they want in their spare time
  • Has your child had enough opportunity to be outside
  • Has your child had enough opportunity to meet friends
  • Has your child been able to choose what to do in their free time
  • Has your child felt understood by their parents
  • Has your child felt loved by their parents
  • Has your child been happy at home
  • Has your child felt that their parents had enough time for them
  • Has your child felt that their parents treated them fairly
  • Has your child been able to talk to their parents when they wanted to
  • Has your child had enough money to do the same things as their friends
  • Has your child felt they had enough money for their expenses
  • Does your child feel they have enough money to do things with their friends
  • Has your child spent time with their friends
  • Has your child done things with other children
  • Has your child had fun with their friends
  • Has your child and their friends helped each other
  • Has your child been able to talk about everything with their friends
  • Has your child been able to rely on their friends
  • Has your child been happy at school
  • Has your child got on well at school
  • Has your child been satisfied with their teachers
  • Has your child been able to pay attention
  • Has your child been enjoying school
  • Has your child got along with their teachers
  • Has your child been afraid of other children
  • Have other children made fun of your child
  • Have other children bullied your child.

(the default questions use he/she and boys/girls language – I’m assuming they will adapt to use they and child as written above)

118 questions for parent & 118 questions for young person from the Child Behaviour Checklist

For each questions the available answers are:

0=Not true (as far as you know); 1=Somewhat or sometimes true; 2=Very true or often true

  • 1.Acts too young for his/her age / I act too young for my age
  • 2. Drinks alcohol without parent’s approval / I drink alcohol without my parent’s approval
  • 3. Argues a lot / I argue a lot
  • 4. Fails to finish things he/she starts  / I fail to finish things I start      
  • 5. There is very little that he/she enjoys / There is very little that I enjoy
  • 6. Bowel movements outside toilet / I like animals
  • 7. Bragging, boasting / I brag
  • 8. Can’t concentrate, can’t pay attention for long / I have trouble concentrating or paying  attention
  • 9. Can’t get their mind off certain thoughts/obsessions (describe) / I can’t get my mind off certain thoughts/obsessions (describe)
  • 10. Can’t sit still, restless or hyperactive / I have trouble sitting still
  • 11. Clings to adults or too dependent / I’m too dependent on adults
  • 12. Complains of loneliness / I feel lonely
  • 13. Confused or seems to be in a fog  / I feel confused or in a fog
  • 14. Cries a lot         / I cry a lot
  • 15. Cruel to animals / I am pretty honest
  • 16. Cruelty, bullying or meanness to others  / I am mean to others
  • 17. Daydreams or gets lost in his/her thoughts  / I daydream a lot
  • 18. Deliberately harms self or attempts suicide / I deliberately try to hurt or kill myself
  • 19. Demands a lot of attention   / I try to get a lot of attention
  • 20. Destroys his/her own things       / I destroy my own things
  • 21. Destroys things belonging to his/her family or others        / I destroy things belonging to others
  • 22. Disobedient at home      / I disobey my parents 
  • 23.Disobedient at school      / I disobey at school
  • 24. Doesn’t eat well / I don’t eat as well as I should
  • 25. Doesn’t get along with other kids  / I don’t get along with other kids
  • 26. Doesn’t seem to feel guilty after misbehaving        / I don’t feel guilty after doing something I shouldn’t
  • 27. Easily jealous / I am jealous of others
  • 28. Breaks rules at home, school, or elsewhere   /     I breaks rules at home, school, or elsewhere  
  • 29. Fears certain animals, situations or places other than school  / I am afraid of certain animals, situations or places other than school          
  • 30. Fears going to school   / I am afraid of going to school     
  • 31. Fears he/she might think or do something bad / I’m afraid I might think or do something bad
  • 32. Feels he/she must be perfect         / I feel that I have to be perfect
  • 33. Feels or complains that no one loves him/her  / I feel that no one loves me      
  • 34. Feels others are out to get him/her / I feel that others are out to get me
  • 35. Feels worthless or inferior         / I feel worthless or inferior
  • 36. Gets hurt a lot/accident prone / I accidently get hurt a lot
  • 37. Gets in many fights     / I get in many fights
  • 38. Gets teased a lot  / I get teased a lot
  • 39. Hangs with others who get in trouble         / I hang around with kids who get into trouble
  • 40. Hears sound or voices that aren’t there     / I hear sound or voices that  other people think aren’t there             
  • 41.Impulsive or acts without thinking        / I act without stopping to think
  • 42. Would rather be alone than with others / I would rather be alone than with others
  • 43. Lying or cheating  / I lie or cheat
  • 44. Bites fingernails / I bite my fingernails
  • 45. Nervous, high-strung, or tense    / I am nervous or tense
  • 46. Nervous movements or twitching (describe) / parts of my body twitch or make nervous movements
  • 47. Nightmares / I have nightmares
  • 48. Not liked by other kids  / I am not liked by other kids
  • 49. Constipated, doesn’t move bowels / I can do certain things better than other kids
  • 50. Too fearful or anxious         / I am too fearful or anxious
  • 51. Feels dizzy or lightheaded   / I feel dizzy or lightheaded
  • 52. Feels too guilty         / I feel too guilty
  • 53. Overeating   / I eat too much
  • 54. Over-tired, without good reason   / I feel overtired without good reason
  • 55. Overweight / I am overweight
  • 56. Physical problems without known medical cause:
  • a) Aches or pains (not stomach or headache)
  • b) Headaches
  • c) Nausea, feels sick
  • d) Problems with eyes (not corrected by glasses)
  • e) Rashes or other skin problems
  • f) Stomach aches
  • g) Vomiting / throwing up
  • h) Other (describe)
  • 57. Physically attacks people        / I physically attack people       
  • 58. Picks nose/skin/other part of body (describe) / I picks my nose/skin/other part of body (describe)
  • 59. Plays with own sex parts in public         / I can be pretty friendly
  • 60. Plays with own sex parts too much         / I like to try new things
  • 61. Poor school work         / My school work is poor
  • 62. Poorly coordinated or clumsy / I am poorly coordinated or clumsy
  • 63. Prefers being with older kids    / I would rather be with older kids than kids my own age
  • 64. Prefers being with younger kids   / I would rather be with younger kids than kids my own age
  • 65. Refuses to talk / I refuse to talk
  • 66. Repeats certain acts over and over; compulsions (describe)  / I repeat certain acts over and over; compulsions (describe) 
  • 67. Runs away from home        /  I run away from home
  • 68. Screams a lot        / I scream a lot
  • 69. Secretive, keeps things to self /  I am secretive or keep things to myself
  • 70. Sees things that aren’t there   / I see things that other people think aren’t there
  • 71. Self-conscious or easily embarrassed         / I am self-conscious or easily embarrassed        
  • 72. Sets fires         / I set fires
  • 73. Sexual problems       / I can work well with my hands
  • 74. Showing off or clowning     / I show off or clown
  • 75. Too shy or timid / I am too timid or shy
  • 76. Sleeps less than most kids         / I sleep less than most kids
  • 77. Sleeps more than most kids during day and/or night (describe) / I sleep more than most kids during day and/or night (describe)
  • 78. Inattentive or easily distracted        / I am inattentive or easily distracted       
  • 79. Speech problem (describe) / I have a speech problem (describe)
  • 80. Stares blankly         / I stand up for my rights
  • 81. Steals at home         / I steal at home
  • 82. Steals outside the home   / I steal from places outside the home
  • 83. Stores up too many things they don’t need (describe) / I stores up too many things I don’t need (describe)
  • 84. Strange behaviour (describe) / I do things other people think are strange
  • 85. Strange ideas         / I have thoughts other people would think are strange (describe)
  • 86. Stubborn, sullen, or irritable / I am stubborn       
  • 87. Sudden changes in mood or feelings       / My moods or feelings change suddenly
  • 88. Sulks a lot      / I enjoy being with people
  • 89. Suspicious       / I am suspicious
  • 90. Swearing or obscene language     / I swear or use dirty language   
  • 91. Talks about killing self    / I think about killing myself
  • 92. Talks or walks in sleep (describe)     / I like to make others laugh
  • 93. Talks too much         / I talk too much
  • 94. Teases a lot       / I tease others a lot
  • 95. Temper tantrums or hot temper      / I have a hot temper   
  • 96. Thinks about sex too much        / I think about sex too much
  • 97. Threatens people      / I threaten to hurt people
  • 98. Thumb-sucking / I like to help others
  • 99. Smokes, chews, or sniffs tobacco   / I smokes, chew, or sniff tobacco               
  • 100. Trouble sleeping  / I have trouble sleeping (describe)                
  • 101. Truancy or unexplained absence   / I cut classes or skip school
  • 102. Underactive, slow moving or lacks energy / I don’t have much energy
  • 103. Unhappy, sad or depressed / I am unhappy, sad or depressed
  • 104. Unusually loud    / I am louder than other kids  
  • 105. Uses dugs/alcohol for nonmedical purposes      / I use drugs for non-medical purposes  
  • 106. Vandalism      / I like to be fair to others
  • 107. Wets self during the day / I enjoy a good joke
  • 108. Wets the bed / I like to take life easy
  • 109. Whining / I try to help other people where I can
  • 110. Wishes to be of opposite sex / I wish I were of the opposite sex
  • 111. Withdrawn, doesn’t get involved with others  / I keep from getting involved with others
  • 112. Worries         / I worry a lot
  • 113. Please write in any problems your child has that were not listed above.

2 questions for parents on Parental ‘About Yourself’ Questionnaire

  1. Do you identify’ as: ‘woman/girl’, ‘man/boy’, ‘transwoman/transgirl’, ‘transman/transboy’, ‘non-binary/genderqueer/agender/gender fluid’, ‘don’t know’, ‘prefer not to say’, ‘other’.
  2. What was your sex assigned at birth?  ‘female’, ‘male’, ‘don’t know’, and ‘prefer not to say’.

18 questions for parents on SNAP-IV tool, assessing symptoms of ADHD

(not at all; just a little; quite a bit; very much)

  • 1. Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork or tasks
  • 2. Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities
  • 3. Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly
  • 4. Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties
  • 5. Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities
  • 6. Often avoids, dislikes, or reluctantly engages in tasks requiring sustained mental effort
  • 7. Often loses things necessary for activities (e.g., toys, school assignments, pencils or books
  • 8. Often is distracted by extraneous stimuli
  • 9. Often is forgetful in daily activities
  • 10. Often fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat
  • 11. Often leaves seat in classroom or in other situations in which remaining seated is expected
  • 12. Often runs about or climbs excessively in situations in which it is inappropriate
  • 13. Often has difficulty playing or engaging in leisure activities quietly
  • 14. Often is “on the go” or often acts as if “driven by a motor”
  • 15. Often talks excessively
  • 16. Often blurts out answers before questions have been completed
  • 17. Often has difficulty awaiting turn
  • 18. Often interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations/ games

40 questions for parents on Social Communication Questionnaire (SCQ) for assessing autism (I haven’t updated the language to make gender neutral here)

  • 1. Is she/he now able to talk using short phrases or sentences? If no, skip to Question 8
  • 2. Do you have a to-and-fro “conversation” with her/him that involves taking turns or building on what you have said
  • 3. Does she/he ever use odd phrases or say the same thing over and over in almost exactly the same way (either phrases that she/he hears other people use or ones that she/he makes up).
  • 4. Does she/he ever use socially inappropriate questions or statements? For example, does she/he regularly ask personal questions or make personal comments at awkward times
  • 5. Does she/he ever get her/his pronouns mixed up (e.g. saying you or she/he for I).
  • 6. Does she/he ever use words that she/he seems to have invented or made up herself/himself; put things in odd, indirect ways; or use metaphorical ways of saying things (e.g. saying hot rain for steam)
  • 7. Does she/he ever say the same thing over and over in exactly the same way or insist that you say the same thing over and over again.
  • 8. Does she/he ever have things that she/he seems to have to do in a very particular way or order or rituals that she/he insists that you go through
  • 9. Does her/his facial expression usually seem appropriate to the particular situation, as far as you can tell
  • 10. Does she/he ever use your hand like a tool or as if it were part of her/his own body (e.g. pointing with your finger, putting your hand on a doorknob to get you to open the door)#
  • 11. Does she/he ever have any interests that preoccupy her/him and might seem odd to other people (e.g. traffic lights, drainpipes, timetables)
  • 12. Does she/he ever seem to be more interested in parts of a toy or an object (e.g. spinning the wheels of a car), rather than in using the objects as it was intended.
  • 13. Does she/he ever have any special interests that are unusual in their intensity but otherwise appropriate for her/his age and peer group (e.g. trains or dinosaurs)
  • 14. Does she/he ever seem to be unusually interested in the sight, feel, sound, taste, or smell of things or people
  • 15. Does she/he ever have any mannerisms or odd ways of moving her/his hands or fingers, such as flapping or moving her/his fingers in front of her/his eyes
  • 16. Does she/he ever have any complicated movements of her/his whole body, such as spinning or repeatedly bouncing up and down.
  • 17. Does she/he ever injure herself/himself deliberately, such as biting her/his arm or banging her/his head
  • 18. Does she/he ever have any objects (other than a soft toy or comfort blanket) that she/he has to carry around
  • 19. Does she/he ever have any particular friends or a best friend
  • 20. Does she/he ever talk to you just to be friendly (rather than to get something)
  • 21. Does she/he ever spontaneously copy you (or other people) or what you are doing (such as vacuuming, gardening, or mending things)
  • 22. Does she/he ever spontaneously point at things around her/him just to show you things (not because she/he wants them)
  • 23. Does she/he ever use gestures, other than pointing or pulling your hand, to let you know what she/he wants
  • 24. Does she/he nod her/his head to indicate yes
  • 25. Does she/he shake her/his head to indicate no
  • 26. Does she/he usually look at you directly in the face when doing things with you or talking with you
  • 27. Does she/he smile back if someone smiles at her/him
  • 28. Does she/he ever show you things that interest her/him to engage your attention?
  • 29. Does she/he ever offer to share things other than food with you
  • 30.  Does she/he ever seem to want you to join in her/his enjoyment of something
  • 31. Does she/he ever try to comfort you if you are sad or hurt
  • 32. If she/he wants something or wants help, does she/he look at you and use gestures with sounds or words to get your attention
  • 33. Does she/he show a normal range of facial expressions
  • 34. Does she/he ever spontaneously join in and try to copy the actions in social games, such as The Mulberry Bush or London Bridge Is Falling Down
  • 35. Does she/he play any pretend or make-believe games
  • 36. Does she/he seem interested in other children of approximately the same age whom she/he does not know
  • 37. Does she/he respond positively when another child approaches her/him
  • 38. If you come into a room and start talking to her/him without calling her/his name, does she/he usually look up and pay attention to you
  • 39. Does she/he ever play imaginative games with another child in such a way that you can tell that each child understands what the other is pretending
  • 40. Does she/he play cooperatively in games that need some form of joining in with a group of other children, such as hide-and-seek or ball games?

2 questions for young people on PATHWAYS Gender Identity Questionnaire

  • 1. What best describes your gender identity?’

 ‘definitely a boy’, mainly a boy’, ‘in the middle’, ‘definitely a girl’, ‘mainly a girl’, ‘neither a boy or girl’, ‘not sure’ and ‘none of the above’.

  • 2. Are there other words that you use to describe your gender identity? (select all that apply), ‘cisgender’, transgender’, ‘non-binary’, ‘agender’, ‘genderfluid’, ‘genderqueer’, ‘two-spirit’ and ‘other’.

5 Questions for Young people on Social Transition Questionnaire

“Have you socially transitioned in any of the following settings?”, followed by a checklist of five settings: Home, School, With Friends, Online, and Any Other Setting (e.g., holiday).

5 Questions for Parent and 5 questions for young people on Adolescent Primary Care Traumatic Stress Screen (APCTSS) (here the young person version)

In the past month have you:

  1. Had bad dreams about scary experiences or other bad dreams?
  2. Had upsetting thoughts, pictures or sounds of scary experiences come into your mind when you didn’t want them to?
  3. Tried not to think about or have feelings about scary experiences?
  4. Been mad at yourself or someone else for making the scary experiences happen, not doing more to stop it, or to help after?
  5. Felt jumpy or easily startled, like when you hear a loud noise, or when something surprises you?

 25 Questions for parent and 25 questions for young people on Revised Child Anxiety and Depression Scale (RCADS)

Children or parents rate how often symptoms occur, using a four-point scale: 0 (Never), 1 (Sometimes), 2 (Often), or 3 (Always). 

The tool asks 25 different questions written for either a child to self-complete (the version below) or with slightly rephrased questions for an adult to complete (where question 1 is “My child worries about things”.

  • 1. I feel sad or empty.  
  • 2. I worry when I think I have done poorly at something.
  • 3. I would feel afraid of being on my own at home.  
  • 4. Nothing is much fun anymore.  
  • 5. I worry that something awful will happen to someone in my family.  
  • 6. I am afraid of being in crowded places (like shopping centers, the movies, buses, busy playgrounds).  
  • 7. I worry what other people think of me.  
  • 8. I have trouble sleeping.  
  • 9. I feel scared if I have to sleep on my own.  
  • 10. I have problems with my appetite.  
  • 11. I suddenly become dizzy or faint when there is no reason for this.  
  • 12. I have to do some things over and over again (like washing my hands, cleaning or putting things in a certain order).  
  • 13. I have no energy for things.  
  • 14. I suddenly start to tremble or shake when there is no reason for this.  
  • 15. I cannot think clearly.  
  • 16. I feel worthless.  
  • 17. I have to think of special thoughts (like numbers or words) to stop bad things from happening.  
  • 18. I think about death.  
  • 19. I feel like I don’t want to move.  
  • 20. I worry that I will suddenly get a scared feeling when there is nothing to be afraid of.  
  • 21. I am tired a lot.  
  • 22. I feel afraid that I will make a fool of myself in front of people.  
  • 23. I have to do some things in just the right way to stop bad things from happening.  
  • 24. I feel restless.  
  • 25. I worry that something bad will happen to me

18 Questions for young person on Utrecht Gender Dysphoria Scale – Gender Spectrum (UGDS-GS)

  1. I prefer to behave like my affirmed gender;
  2. Every time someone treats me like my assigned sex I feel hurt;
  3. It feels good to live as my affirmed gender;
  4. I always want to be treated like my affirmed gender;
  5. A life in my affirmed gender is more attractive for me than a life in my assigned sex;
  6. I feel unhappy when I have to behave like my assigned sex;
  7. It is uncomfortable to be sexual in my assigned sex;
  8. I wish I had been born as my affirmed gender;
  9. My life would be meaningless if I would have to live as my assigned sex;
  10. I feel hopeless if I have to stay in my assigned sex;
  11. I feel unhappy when someone misgenders me;
  12. I hate my birth assigned sex;
  13. I feel uncomfortable behaving like my assigned sex;
  14. It would be better not to live, than to live as my assigned sex.
  15. Puberty felt like a betrayal;
  16. Physical sexual development was stressful;
  17. The bodily functions of my assigned sex are distressing for me (i.e. erection, menstruation);
  18. I feel unhappy because I have the physical characteristics of my assigned sex.

33 Questions for Children/Young people on Body Image Scale – Gender Spectrum (BIS-GS)

Each questions asks: a) How happy are you with [insert name of a particular body part]?: With answers i) very happy ii) happy iii) neutral iv) unhappy v) very unhappy vi) don’t have.

Each question is followed up with: Would you want to change that body part if it was possible through medical or surgical treatment? i) Yes ii) No

  • 1) Nose:
  • 2) Shoulders
  • 3) Hips
  • 4) Chin
  • 5) Calves
  • 6) Breasts
  • 7) Chest
  • 8) Hands
  • 9) Adam’s Apple
  • 10) penis
  • 11) clitoris
  • 12) testes
  • 13) ovaries
  • 14) scrotum
  • 15) vagina
  • 16) Height
  • 17) Thighs
  • 18) Arms
  • 19) Eyebrows
  • 20) Waist
  • 21) Buttocks
  • 22) Biceps
  • 23) Hair
  • 24) Feet
  • 25) Muscles
  • 26) Facial Hair
  • 27) Face
  • 28) Voice
  • 29) Weight
  • 30) Body figure/shape
  • 31) stature
  • 32) Body hair
  • 33) Appearance

4 Questions for parent and 4 questions for child/young person on Ask Suicide-Screening Questions (ASQ) (here the child/young person version)

  • 1. In the past few weeks, have you wished you were dead? Yes No
  • 2. In the past few weeks, have you felt that you or your family would be better off if you were dead? Yes No
  • 3. In the past week, have you been having thoughts about killing yourself? Yes No
  • 4. Have you ever tried to kill yourself? Yes No
  • If yes, How? When?

5 questions for parent and 5 questions for young person on the SCOFF Questionnaire – Test for Detecting Eating Disorders (here the child/young person version)

  • 1. Do you make yourself Sick because you feel uncomfortably full? Yes No
  • 2. Do you worry you have lost Control over how much you eat? Yes No
  • 3. Have you recently lost more than One stone in a 3 month period? Yes No
  • 4. Do you believe yourself to be Fat when others say you are too thin? Yes No
  • 5. Would you say that Food dominates your life? Yes No

29 questions for parents and 18 questions for children/young people on Difficulties in Emotion Regulation Scale (DERS)

(here the child/young person shorter version)

Statements are presented that need to be answered as Almost Never, Sometimes, About half the time, Most of the time, Almost always

  • 1. I pay attention to how I feel.
  • 2. I have no idea how I am feeling.
  • 3. I have difficulty making sense out of my feelings.
  • 4. I am attentive to my feelings.
  • 5. I am confused about how I feel.
  • 6. When I’m upset, I acknowledge my emotions.
  • 7. When I’m upset, I become embarrassed for feeling that way.
  • 8. When I’m upset, I have difficulty getting work done.
  • 9. When I’m upset, I become out of control.
  • 10. When I’m upset, I believe that I will remain that way for a long time.
  • 11. When I’m upset, I believe that I’ll end up feeling very depressed.
  • 12. When I’m upset, I have difficulty focusing on other things.
  • 13. When I’m upset, I feel ashamed with myself for feeling that way.
  • 14. When I’m upset, I feel guilty for feeling that way.
  • 15. When I’m upset, I have difficulty concentrating.
  • 16. When I’m upset, I have difficulty controlling my behaviors.
  • 17. When I’m upset, I believe that wallowing in it is all I can do.
  • 18. When I’m upset, I lose control over my behaviors.

1 Question for children/young people on Sexual Attraction

(question for 12 years+)

  1. Who are you attracted to?

Options: ‘Prefer not to say’, ‘Males’, ‘Females’, ‘Males and females’, ‘Neither’, ‘Not sure’

14 Questions for children/young people on ALSPAC Romantic Relations

(question for 12 years+)

In the past 30 days:

  • 1. Have you hugged anybody?
  •  2. Have you held hands?
  • 3. Have you spent time alone?
  • 4. Have you kissed?
  • 4a. Have you been kissed by anybody?
  •  5. Have you cuddled?
  • 6. Have you lain down together?
  • 7. Has someone put their hands under your clothing?
  • 8. Have you put your hands under someone else’s clothing?
  • 9. Have you been undressed with your genitals showing?
  • 10. Have you touched or fondled someone’s private parts?
  • 11. Has someone touched or fondled your genitals?
  • 12. Have you performed oral sex?
  • 13. Has someone performed oral sex on you?
  • 14. Have you had sex?

16 questions for parents and 14 Questions for children /young people on Parental Attitudes of Gender Expansiveness Scale for Youth (PAGES)

(1= strongly disagree; 5= strongly agree

  • 1. I am proud of my child        
  • 2. I am ashamed of my child  
  • 3. I try to hide my child’s gender identity       
  • 4. My child can be him- or herself around me             
  • 5. I advocate for the rights of my child            
  • 6. I protect my child and defend my child against others’ prejudice against gender-nonconforming/transgender people
  • 7. I have problems with my child’s gender expression
  • 8. I encourage my child to wear clothing and accessories consistent with their birth-assigned gender
  • 9. I use toys, treats or other rewards to pressure my child not to gender transition and to live as his or her birth-assigned gender
  • 10. My child can talk about romantic relationships and dating
  • 11. I worry about how my child’s gender identity will affect our family’s image
  • 12. I feel like a bad parent because I have a child that is gender-nonconforming/transgend
  • 13. I think my child is gender-nonconforming/transgender because of something I did wrong
  • 14. I feel like I am losing a son/daughter, or as if my child were dead             
  • 15. I am supportive of my child’s gender transition  
  • 16. I am worried that my child’s gender identity is a bad influence on my other children

Child/Young person version

  • 1. My parents are proud of me
  • 2. My parents are ashamed of me
  • 3. My parents try to hide me
  • 4. I can be myself around my parents
  • 5. My parents advocate for my rights as a gender-expansive/trans* child
  • 6. My parents protect me and defend me against others prejudice against gender-expansive/trans* people
  • 7. My parents have problems with my gender expression
  • 8. My parents use rewards or treats to pressure me to live as my sex assigned at birth
  • 9. I can talk to my parents about romantic relationships and dating
  • 10. My parents worry about how my gender identity will affect our family’s image
  • 11. My parents probably believe they are bad parents because I am gender-expansive/trans*
  • 12. My parents probably believe that I am gender-expansive/trans* because of something they did wrong
  • 13. My parents are supportive of my gender transition
  • 14. My parents are worried that my gender identity is a bad influence on other kids in my family

15 minutes questioning on ‘medical history’

This component is the least clear. It mentions covering the following vast topic areas that are defined as ‘Medical History’ Domains:

  • 1. Family Context
  • 2. Developmental History
  • 3. Physical Health
  • 4. Mental Health and Risk
  • 5. Adverse childhood experiences
  • 6. Safeguarding
  • 7. Gender Development and Experiences
  • 8. Sexual Development, Knowledge and Sexual Orientation
  • 9. Education, Peer Relationships, and Social Context
  • 10. Additional Information.
  • Clinical Judgements – Impact assessments and clinical evaluation for various aspects of the CYP’s development and wellbeing;
  • Parental Support – Judgements on the level of positive parental support and any conflicts between parents/carers/legal guardians or between parents/carers/legal guardians and the CYP.

Would be good to find out exactly what data is collected and why.

Annual Health Update

A questionnaire was designed to assess:

  • CYP’s current height and weight,
  • current prescribed medications
  • diagnoses including neurodevelopmental, mental health and physical health, received in the past year. number of GP appointments
  • planned surgeries or procedures
  • A&E attendances or other unplanned admissions in the past year.
  • The reasons for the GP appointments and A&E attendances
  • Length of hospital admission for planned surgeries or procedures and admissions following an A&E attendance

Experiences of therapeutic options

Data will also be collected on rates of referral to, uptake of and completion of:

  • Psychological therapy
  • Occupational therapy
  • Speech and language therapy,
  • Clinical nursing
  • Youth work support
  • School/College support
  • Non-endocrine pharmacological treatments

Compensation

Children/young people and parent/carer/legal guardian completing informant measures will each receive shop vouchers worth £20 for each data collection episode.

Transgender children need Stonewall’s support: SOME CHILDREN ARE TRANS. GET OVER IT!

Feedback on Stonewall ‘A Vision for Change’ – Parent’s perspective.

We warmly welcome Stonewall’s commitment to transgender advocacy. This consultation is a very timely opportunity to build a strong coalition to fight for the rights of transgender people. There is much good in the document.  Alongside appointment of a Trans Advisory Group in 2015, and recent recruitment of a Head of Trans Equality, it demonstrates Stonewall’s new commitment to Transgender equality adding the missing T to their excellent work on LGB.

Stonewall has had a lot of trust to recoup with the Trans community. It is right that this document was not written by Stonewall itself but by the arms length Trans Advisory Group. Written by Trans people for Trans people the Vision statement provides a foundation and mandate for action.

There does however appear to be a missing voice – that of transgender children and their parents.  As non trans people, parents of transgender children (unless trans themselves) are unable to attend the five planned consultation meetings. The two-week window to feed back comments in writing or by phone, is also short, and those with busy lives (and I think this would include all parents of trans children), may find it difficult to input.

Following publication of the Vision on Monday evening, we spoke to other parents with transgender children, mainly those supported by Mermaids, which helped to shape our thoughts on the document. We shared these with other parents and then submitted detailed comments (below) to Stonewall. We also sent a copy to Susie Green CEO of Mermaids.

Please note, this feedback is intended to complement rather than detract from the much needed work outlined in the Vision. We’ve focused upon the references to trans-children (or their absence where we think they need inclusion) . While critical, the comments come from a good place. We are simply parents who want to do the best for their children.

We’re now asking  for advocates from the Trans community to read this feedback, and take forward these comments, in person if possible, to the consultation meetings we are unable, as parents, to attend. 

Transgender children are one of the most vulnerable groups of transgender people. Transgender children cannot themselves lead or achieve the changes that they need. Supportive parents of transgender children are in a unique position to raise the voices of our children, and need to be explicitly included in this dialogue.

Supportive parents of transgender children are some of the most well-informed, passionate and motivated allies for transgender people, but we are often unable to speak publically (to protect our children). We need allies like Stonewall. Working in partnership we will achieve far more than working in isolation.

We hope this can be the start of a dialogue and partnership between parents of transgender children and Stonewall.

Key Recommendations

  • Explicitly acknowledge the existence of transgender children in this document and explicitly acknowledge your support for transgender children. (Comment 1, C4, C8, C9, C21, C32).
  • Work with parents of transgender children to improve critical sections of this document. (C2, C14, C24, C25).
  • Work in partnership with parents of transgender children, and invite both a parent of a transgender teenager, and a parent of a transgender child to join the steering team, with an explicit remit to represent the concerns and needs of transgender children. (C15, C22, C30, C33)
  • Acknowledge the significant challenges (prejudice, hate, discrimination) faced by transgender children. (C5, C10, C11, C12, C13, C26).
  • Propose concrete ways in which Stonewall will help transgender children. (C3, C6, C7, C20, C23, C27, C28, C30, C31),
  • Avoid repeating and reinforcing prejudicial and damaging attitudes towards transgender children in this document. (C16, C17, C18, C19, C29
  • Embrace this opportunity to build a coalition with a group of very motivated trans allies (supportive parents of transgender children).

Detailed Comments

Comment 1 (C1):P. 4. Shared Mission: The mission statement does not seem to include trans children, one of the most vulnerable trans groups. Add ‘schools’ to ensure it is clear that trans children are important trans people.

C2: p.5 The document is ‘driven by trans people and achieved by trans people’. My daughter is a vulnerable and important trans person. She cannot drive the changes that she needs. As her parent I need to be her advocate. Trans-children are a group who are uniquely unable to drive and achieve the changes they need. Allies for trans-children (of whom parents and organisations like Mermaids are an important component) need to be part of this dialogue and this agenda, otherwise the important needs of trans-children will be overlooked (as seems to have been the case in this document). Do you have a member of the steering group on the panel as an advocate for trans-children? Of course all trans adults were once trans children, but the experiences and problems of trans-children (particularly those who are early transitioners and openly trans) may be quite different to the experiences and problems that adults had in a different time when they were children.

C3: Amplifying voices. Important to add here that Stonewall will raise the voices of those who can’t speak openly. This is particularly relevant for children and their parents, who are very isolated and can’t speak openly as we need to protect our children.

C4: p. 6 Transforming institutions. Says improving services and workplaces. Suggests people become trans at age 18. Absolutely needs to include schools as the institution where our trans-children spend most of their time. Change to “Improving services, schools and workplaces’. Avoiding mentioning schools (and therefore children) here perpetuates a culture of denial of the existence of trans-children. Bullying at school (including by teachers and other parents) can be horrific. A transgender child was recently shot at school (in the UK) simply for being trans after months of sustained bullying. Schools cannot be omitted here.

C5: p. 12 Representation in media. Media coverage of trans-children is horrific. Yet this is not even mentioned. Harmful media messages about trans-children not existing causes direct damage to trans-children.

C6: Network of allies – National campaign to educate the general population doesn’t mention the need to educate the general population about trans-children, around which there are so many misconceptions and so much fear.

C7: p.12 Challenge transphobia – research needs to encompass the experiences of trans-children.

C8: Language – the document has not once used the term ‘trans-children’. This is part of a wider societal culture of fear and prejudice where the existence of trans-children is denied. If even a stonewall trans advocacy document cannot be brave enough and say ‘yes there are trans children’ then what hope have we got. Using the term ‘young people’ and avoiding the term trans children very much suggests that being trans is a choice that can be made by competent (Gillick competent) teenagers/young adults. My child is certainly a child. They have not chosen to be trans it is who they are. Avoiding the term trans-children is insipid and perpetuates a culture of denial of trans-children’s existence.

C9: p. 15 Institutions. In the heading the word school is again omitted (it definitely needs adding). In the subtext the term ‘in school’ finally appears. First implicit acknowledgement that trans-children exist in the document?

C10: p.16 Criminal justice. No mention of social services investigating parents who support their child in their gender identity. No mention of justice system discriminating against parents who support their child in their gender identity. Both critical issues for transgender children and supportive families (especially in child custody disputes). Nor indeed is there any mention here of the legal rights of transgender children themselves.

C11: p. 17 Faith schools worth a mention here as a particular area for discrimination.

C12: p. 17 There are specific challenges for trans-children in the healthcare system that are not acknowledged here.

C13: P, 17 Sport. Some sporting bodies have trans policies that require information on hormone levels in order to compete, some require “evidence of SRS” or a formal assessment by a board. This clearly is unreasonable for trans-children and creates situations were trans children are prevented from accessing sport either through explicit exclusion or implicitly made unwelcome.

C14: p.18 Young people and education. This section is extremely weak. By far the weakest section of the whole report. I can make some comments but this really needs a significant overhaul and input from a wider group of trans child advocates.

C15: The weakness of this section makes me wonder how well the current working group is representing the experience and needs of trans-children. Do you have any members of the working group nominated specifically to represent the interests of trans-children. A parent of a trans-child (where the parent may or may not be trans themselves) would be an important addition to a working group otherwise the voices of trans-children will be lost (as I fear they have been in this current draft).

C16: Why is this section talking predominantly about gender stereotypes, and about gender expression, and gender roles and colours/toys/clothes. This is extremely worrying.

C17: Of course gender stereotypes are unhelpful – this is not an issue that is specific to trans-children, nor specific to trans-people – it is a broad issue affecting everyone. There is no reason to have a section on gender stereotypes in a section on trans-children. My trans-daughter thought she couldn’t be a pirate captain as she is a girl – so yes gender stereotypes are a problem for everyone, including for trans-children, but this is not the issue to be focused upon in a section on how Stonewall can best support trans-children.

C18: Likewise, there is no reason to talk about gender expression or toys, or clothes,0 or gender roles, or fitting with gender stereotypes in this section. This plays into a deeply harmful cultural narrative that assumes ‘transgender children’ are not really transgender but just like wearing different clothes or toys or colours or don’t fit with traditional stereotypes and are being pushed (by transgender activists) into being transgender when they are really just non-conforming. This is all irrelevant for transgender children like mine who don’t give a damn what toys or clothes they have as long as they are recognised as a girl. For trans-children like mine who knew they were trans way before they had any understanding of gender stereotypes.

C19: The section here on ‘people exploring their gender identity and how they fit with traditional gender stereotypes’ is deeply patronising and unhelpful. Would you put this stuff in the adult transgender section? I don’t think so. Talking about gender non-conforming or questioning children who reconcile their questions’ is deeply unhelpful and plays into a cultural narrative that discredits children knowing who they are, and talks about it being a ‘phase’. Gender non-conforming children who reconcile their questions are not trans-children – they do not need emphasis here. I like the stonewall poster ‘some people are trans/gay – get over it’. I’d like more bravery here ‘some children are trans – get over it’. There seems here to be fear to acknowledge the existence of trans-children. This hesitancy wouldn’t be reasonable in the adults section of this document, and shouldn’t be present here. There are trans-children in this world, and they face serious issues (hate, discrimination, prejudice).

C20: This section needs to discuss the serious issues that trans-children face, and talk about how Stonewall is going to help this extremely vulnerable group.

C21: Furthermore, the term ‘young people’ is too vague. As mentioned above, the term ‘transgender children (no matter what their age)’ would be better. Or perhaps ‘transgender children and transgender teenagers’. Otherwise it seems like this document is denying the existence of transgender children (and if you don’t acknowledge they even exist, how are you possibly going to help them?).

C22: The section on LGBT mentions the hostility or confusion towards the trans community within the LGB community. As a parent of a young trans child I’m aware that a minority of trans adults are themselves sometimes ill-informed or and unsupportive to the needs of trans-children. Some trans adults are sceptical of the need to support and help trans-children. There cannot be an automatic assumption that trans adults will always understand or advocate for trans children, and I think it is worth acknowledging.

C23: p.19 The key recommendation on how stonewall is going to help my transgender child is to avoid gender stereotypes. This belittles the genuine challenges my transgender child faces, and is not in any way a good enough recommendation given the mountain of challenges my child will face before they reach adulthood.

C24: This section needs starting again.

Service Providers

C25: p.22 This section does not acknowledge the particular challenges in the Gender Identity service for children. There are many specific issues that could be acknowledged and addressed if this was developed in consultation with those who support transgender children. This needs to consider how the system works for children of all ages, not just for those old enough to access medical interventions. Fostered trans children and young people face particular challenges and aren’t mentioned in the document.

C26: Particularly this section does not consider the issues around the gatekeeper role that the children’s GIDS service plays to approve or deny access to medical interventions. Practices that are (hopefully) considered unacceptable in adult services are standard in children’s services, with much questioning of why the child has chosen that they would prefer to be a girl, intrusive questioning about genitals, parents being blamed for ‘causing’ their child to be transgender, children being told they are not dressing or acting sufficiently in their affirming gender role to be properly transgender, or children being told they are not sufficiently upset with parts of their anatomy to be properly transgender. Panels of medical professionals make decisions for which there is no appeal. This is in addition to timescales and protocols that are arbitrary and damaging. In addition, in a monopolised and unaccountable system, parents of transgender children are afraid to complain for fear it will damage their child’s support. There needs to be a system put in place for complaints from parents about the children’s GID service to be effectively dealt with.

C27: Also the final wording ‘New models of care, which don’t require psychiatric diagnosis as their foundation, should be explored’ brings to mind the wording of the government response to the Women’s and Equalities select committee report which was full of issues ‘to be explored’. Not a helpful thing to bring to mind, when what is needed is action not ‘further exploration’.

C28: p.24 A better section. Note, this is the only page in the entire 37 page document which uses the term “trans children”. The text is fine, though a bit vague on what are the very many problems and what are the issues that Stonewall plans to help tackle.

It needs to talk more about the crunch issues ‘right to wear uniform, right to use toilet, right to be addressed by preferred name and pronoun (without a deed pole or Dr’s permission), right to change gender marker on record, right to be safe, right not to be persecuted, responsibility of school to protect from bullying, responsibility of school to help other pupils understand, right to socially transition at any age without medical permission etc etc. The current text is too vague and avoids many key issues.

C29: Again the section blurs the ‘children exploring gender identity’ and transgender children topic. The adults section does not devote space to adults questioning gender identity – it focuses on what are the needs of trans adults. The children’s section should similarly prioritise the needs of transgender children (many things that will help transgender children in schools will also help gender questioning children, but to merge the two adds to the confusion around whether transgender children exist (ie some people want to put all children into the gender questioning category, as if you have to be an adult to be actually transgender – pretending they don’t exist is deeply unhelpful for addressing the needs of transgender children.

C30: p. 26. Great to hear about the #Stonewall education research project. Would be good to see commitment that this will mean understanding the experience of transgender children of all ages, in both primary and secondary school. It will be unlikely that this research will be appropriate to directly speak with primary school children like my daughter, in which case this research will explicitly need to reach out to and include the parents of transgender children, otherwise an important voice will be lost.

C31: The Stonewall training will sit alongside existing stonewall LGB trainings. I imagine (I do not have expertise here) that most LGB trainings are aimed at secondary school age? For transgender children, unlike LGB children, there are transgender children in schools and pre-schools from as young as age 3. How is the Stonewall education programme being adapted to ensure transgender components support primary age transgender children? Many schools are in denial about having young transgender children (until they have a young child transition, at which point they go into panic and melt down).

C32: Unless you have a clear policy on the existence of transgender young children, you will not be able to support the schools that are unconvinced of the existence of transgender young children.

C33: p.26 Great to see this commitment to work with #Mermaids. I’m a member of Mermaids and fellow parents who I have met through Mermaids have been the only support at all we have had on this very lonely journey as a parent of a transgender child. We need organisations like Mermaids and Stonewall to work together to help our transgender children.

Thank you for taking the time to read this submission.

We look forward to hearing more about the consultation.

Born in the right body

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When you were born you were perfect;

strong, healthy, just a bit too yellow.

We thought you were a boy;

We now know you are a girl.

Our kind, clever, beautiful daughter.

Happy, confident, healthy.

You are still perfect – our perfect girl.

 

You are not a girl in a boy’s body.

This is your body, and you are a girl.

Your body is just like your new friends’ who are also trans girls.

You have a perfect trans girl’s body.

Never let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

As you get older, maybe you will want or need to change some part.

I know you don’t want a beard

But what you do with your body is entirely up to you.

There is no right way to be.

You are loved and perfect as you are.

 

You were not born in the wrong body.

Remember your uncle’s knee didn’t work and he had to go to the hospital to fix it?

No one says he was born in the wrong body.

You know your grandma needs to take medicine because her hormones aren’t right.

No one says she was born in the wrong body.

 

You are a perfect girl, with a perfect body.

And we love you to the moon and back,

and always will.